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Categories: divorce, High Conflict
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This post is from years ago. But I think it applies quite nicely every October.
Originally posted on Brave, Weber & Mack:
By Shawn Weber, Family Law Attorney and Mediator
Halloween is often overlooked by California courts. It never seems to get the attention that Christmas, Fourth of July or even Labor Day receive. Because people don’t get time off for Halloween, it is often simply forgotten in custody orders. However, it can be pretty frightful if the parents are acting like monsters on the night that the kids are supposed to be having fun. Here are some tips to make sure that Halloween is a treat instead of a trick:
- If Halloween is not in your ordered parenting plan, consider adding it. This may seem like a no brainer, but as mentioned above, the holiday is often overlooked. It’s a good idea to be fair about the holiday and consider an alternating annual schedule. For example, the kids could be with dad for trick-or-treating in even-numbered years and with the…
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Categories: divorce, Finances
Tags: community property, divorce, finances, grey divorce, Money, retirement, seniors
It seems that the grey divorce is on the rise. According to a post on CNBC.com, 1 in every 4 divorces is from a couple over 50. I find that amazing.
Divorcing moments before retirement can be a dangerous proposition. I have seem many of my over-50 clients finding themselves in serious trouble. They often don’t realize that the community property portion of the retirement is cut in half in California. Nearly 100% of my clients lose money in the divorce. Dividing assets and no longer pooling resources can make for some serious budgetary heartburn. Younger couples can bounce back pretty well, but I often worry for the older couple. There just isn’t enough time to rebuild the nest egg. If one spouse stayed home to take care of kids and never reentered the workforce, there simply isn’t enough time to rebuild new job skills and earn sufficiently to save for retirement in such a short time. Support payers are often faced with the prospect of alimony payments for the rest of their lives.
This article on CNBC.com by Ilana Polyak does a good job of laying it out: http://www.cnbc.com/id/102083712
Let me know what you think? What thoughts or ideas do you have for older couples facing a divorce?
WSJ: Surprisingly high number of people who hide money from their spouse. What do you think? http://ow.ly/BFe7Q
ABC News: How women can keep from making themselves victims in divorce. http://ow.ly/BoJsW